The Truth About Executive Presence Nobody Tells You

Edge of Possibilities | Liz Murray | Leadership Development

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Most of what we've been taught about executive presence is wrong. We're told it's about how we show up. Stand tall, speak with conviction, hold the room, look the part. So we do all of it. And we feel like a fraud the entire time we're doing it.

In this episode I unpack the difference between performing presence and actually having it, why the performing is what's quietly exhausting so many genuinely capable leaders, and the one question that changes how you lead: who are you being when you walk into the room?

This is the first of a four-part July series on leadership presence. Authority isn't about how you look. It's about who you're being.

In this episode:

00:00 The executive presence myth

00:30 Why performing presence feels like fraud

01:10 Performed presence vs real presence

01:45 The question to sit with this month Want to see where your own authority might be drifting?

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FULL TRANSCRIPT:

Most of what we've been taught about executive presence is completely wrong. We've been told it's about how we show up. We need to stand tall, we need to speak with conviction, and we've got to hold that room. We need to look the part. So we do all of it. We manage our posture, we manage our tone, and the words we choose. The face we make when someone challenges us in a meeting. And it all works, sort of. People think we've got it all together. But here's what no one tells us. If presence is something that we're performing, we feel like a fraud the entire time that we're doing it. Some part of us knows that it isn't real. We're managing the optics and hoping that nobody looks too closely. That is exhausting. And it's why so many genuinely capable leaders sit in their cars after a big meeting completely depleted, wondering why something that they're apparently good at takes so much out of them. It's because performing presence and having presence are two completely different things. Real presence isn't something we project outward. It's something people feel from you. And you can't fake what people feel. They clock it in seconds. The leader who's performing authority and the leader who actually has it can say the exact same words, and the room responds completely differently. So the question isn't how do I look more authoritative. That's the trap. That's what keeps us managing the surface. The real question, the one we're going to sit with this month, across the month of July, is this. Who are you being when you walk into the room? Because authority isn't about how you look. It's about who you're being. And that changes everything about how you lead. This month I'm going to show you what real leadership presence actually looks like. Not the performance, the real thing. The kind that's calm, that doesn't need to prove itself, and that people trust without being able to explain why. Stay with me. Next week, we'll get to the heart of it.

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PUBLISH DATE: Monday 30 June 2026 at 6:00am AEST
EPISODE LENGTH: 2 minutes 19 seconds
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