What 34 years of marriage taught me about leadership pressure

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Phil and I, 34 years married this weekend

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Phil and I celebrated 34 years married this weekend. We're polar opposites in almost every way you can imagine, and he's still my favourite human on the planet.

Thirty four years hasn't come from us agreeing on everything. It's come from us constantly refining our own defaults, catching the automatic ways we react under pressure, and choosing to keep growing instead of digging in. That's a leadership skill as much as a marriage one.

This week I'm looking at exactly that pattern: the trap that looks like passion but is actually reacting, and what it costs your team when you don't catch it. Video, blog and podcast are all below.

REFLECTION QUESTION

“Where in your week does your chest tighten half a second before someone's finished talking?”

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THIS WEEK'S TIP

Next time you feel challenged, ask one question before you give one answer. It buys you space and keeps the conversation open.

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QUOTE I'M SITTING WITH

“Passion was never the problem. Reacting from it, instead of leading through it, was.” — Liz Murray

This week, from me to you

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Watch

Take 5 With Me

The leadership trap that looks like passion

Why the pattern that looks like passion is actually reacting, and the shift that keeps your authority intact.

Watch the video →

Read

Beyond Boundaries Blog

How to respond instead of react under pressure

The companion piece on catching your own default before your team stops bringing you the truth.

Read the blog →

Listen

Leading From The Edge Podcast

The leadership trap that looks like passion

Same episode, audio version, listen on the go.

Listen now →

The Leadership Mirror

If you want a clearer read on where your own authority holds and where it quietly slips under pressure, this takes five minutes and shows you exactly that.

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